Sometimes, when divorcing spouses start talking about how they’re going to divide assets, the relationship sours even more, and what were once “just” un-pleasantries can cross the line into outright ugliness. Now and then, it’s as though people take leave of their senses, and they let spite drive every decision.
As part of your divorce settlement, you may stand to receive some form of spousal support, and traditional alimony—regular payments made according to a mutually agreed upon schedule—is the most familiar type. However, now that alimony “reform” measures are being passed across the nation, divorcing women who are seeking alimony have legitimate reasons for concern. Why? Because the legal trend is toward severely limiting the duration of alimony, or even eliminating it altogether.
Most couples don’t consider a state’s divorce laws when they’re deciding where to live or buy a house. Statistically speaking, though, about half of those couples will be profoundly affected by the very regulations they’re choosing to ignore.
Almost every part of the divorce process is regulated, and every state has its own laws, making for many potential variations. If you are divorcing in New York, for example, your experience might be vastly different from those of your friends in Connecticut and New Jersey – even though you all live close enough to one another to meet weekly for lunch!
Many married women now have substantial incomes and assets of their own, possibly even much more than their husbands. Of course, that wasn’t always the case. In 1970, wives earned just 52% of what their husbands did, on average. Today, that number has risen to 78%. Granted, it’s still a long way from equality but clearly, there has been progress.
Do you have a greater income or higher net worth than your husband? If so, and you’re considering divorce, please make sure that you: