Even if you had no experience with divorce prior to your own, you probably had some pretty clear ideas about what it would be like to go through one. You might have assumed it’s always easier if you’re the initiator, or that you’d be so angry there wouldn’t be time or space to feel hurt and lonely. When I’m working with clients transitioning through divorce, we often spend a lot of time dealing with “But I never thought…” Which is why learning to let go of your expectations of what divorce is “supposed” to be is one of the very first steps toward healing. In the meantime, though, I thought I’d share some of my patients’ biggest divorce surprises in the hopes of making your journey just a little easier:
Archives for August 2015
Divorcing Women: What To Know About Beneficiary Designation Laws
Divorce involves lots financial housekeeping. If you’re in the middle of it, you’re probably thinking that’s the biggest understatement you’ve heard in quite a while! You’ve had to gather, copy, organize and read through a tremendous amount of paperwork (and it may have been the first time you laid eyes on some of it). But it’s all worth it. You now have significant files of financial information at the ready. You’ve come a long way in terms of financial awareness and organization. And you’ll be able to put all of that to use in your new life as a single woman.